Most of the meals in diplomacy are not of official character hence can be arranged in residency, apartment or restaurant with different number of guests varying from two to ten, and twelve being the most typical. Since we are talking of small group of people it is important to take care and not invite people who cannot stand each other. When inviting smaller number of guests it should be generally avoided inviting two guests of the same rank (when inviting two guests of the same rank, the precedence is given to an older guest). The diner starts with aperitif which is served if possible in the room where guests are gathering prior to dinner. Guests are usually assembled for half an hour (in order to sit all together at the same time). It is quite bad to have guests successively being seated. Meals are usually lunch or dinner; however dinner is more prevalent taking into consideration busyness during the day. Since the dining is not an opportunity to eat excessively, the menu should be measured but selected avoiding really heavy and hot meals (unless it is the country where such meals are common. It is quite desirable to offer a meal specialty of the host as well as local drinks.
guest of honor should initiate leaving a party.
- When the host folds his napkin, this signals that the meal is over.
- Leave a dinner party shortly after dinner ends.
- Write a thank you note to the hostess.
- It is considered impolite to ask for a tour of your host's home.
- It is polite to send flowers in advance of a dinner party. Do not send white lilies, which denote death.
- Men should open doors for women and stand when a woman enters a room.
- Always hold the door for a person following behind you.
- Honor rank when entering a room. Allow higher rank to enter first.