Failing your college application is one of the biggest disappointments a young person could face. You feel a sense of insecurity about yourself and your future to the point where you start questioning every move you have ever made and if it was correct. Especially in this society that we live in today, that values money more than happiness.
Every question that any other person could have possibly asked you, you are now asking yourself. Could I have done more? Didn't I study enough? What do I do now? These three are probably the ones that we ask ourselves the most. The feeling of inadequacy becomes real, and you start believing that you are incapable of succeeding and achieving anything in your life. Most of the people that choose the job they want to do, often get influenced by the people around them, their current financial situation and the environment they live in.
It’s scary to imagine a bright future without a college or university diploma, but it doesn't mean that you will never be successful. Just like with everything that you are involved in, there is a good side and a bad side. It all very much depends on how you perceive the situation, and the truth is that we would never fully appreciate the good if we weren't familiar with the bad.
Every young person needs a positive influential role model in their life, and it took me a long time to accept that, and allow someone to guide me in the correct direction, because I believed that I could do it all by myself, and oh how wrong was I.
In situations like these, we often ONLY focus on the bad part, and the reality is that we enjoy it because it’s easier to whine, do nothing and feel sorry for ourselves, rather than actually get out of bed and to do something useful with your life.
For example, I had my heart focused on Criminology, and it didn’t work out in that way. But that’s okay. Looking back, I was probably more interested in the idea rather than the career. Maybe I wasn’t ready to take on such a heavy subject and even now I am struggling to figure things out. Being in Belgrade, away from home for the first time, was one of the most terrifying things I have ever done. Purely because I didn’t let fear stop me, I have met wonderful people and experienced a culture different to mine. Honestly it has changed me in ways that I cannot describe and I haven’t felt this happy in a long time. Plus I went to a roof party being terrified of heights but you know what? It wasn’t at all bad.
My suggestion is to say “yes” to everything that terrifies you (except spiders, those are gross). Allow yourself to experience the different possibilities and opportunities that life has to offer you, big and small, because you will benefit even from the smallest opportunities that come your way, even if you don’t realize it. Try and then try some more. There’s nothing wrong with failing. What is wrong, is accepting that you are anything less than your own capabilities.
So feel the fear, and do it anyway.