Take home notes:
When we start listening we learn, we grow and we become mature. Why we are tempted to speak instead of listening? Actually we want to stand out. Since our childhood we are taught by our parents and teachers that we have to become doctor engineer and we have to stand out at every level of our professional career. We think that we got all prizes throughout or academic career because we tried to stand out. But what happens when we try to stand out in listening, actually we become vulnerable. We have seen that lions always attacks on the one who is vulnerable.
What is the concept of Standing Out in Japan? They say that the "nail which stays out is always stricken in". The real essence of sportsmanship is to play for the sack of playing the game not to stand out in the competition. It's not about winning or standing out but it is all about playing the game.
Why can't we listen: Actually we wanted to speak? Our internal dialogues may also be a reason that we are unable to listen effectively. Watch for your internal dialogues. Be careful and mindful of this aspect. We wanted to come into Spot-light. If we are fearful from any one and have different doubts about him, we will not be able to pay attention. Then we actually listen with intent to reply. Internal dialogue is always about past or future. It is based on our fears.
We go for selective listening. "SARAY AFSANNAY ME JIS-KA ZIKKAR NA THAH | WOH BAAT UNKO NAGAWAR BOHOT GUZRI HA" ...
WE can't listen other people effectively until & unless our resentment is not gross rooted into gratitude. This is practical approach. Watch yourself!
Internal dialogue and listening to self are two important but different aspects. Concept of Seen & Seer: -
Center of attention in our body.
Window of perception. Watch your breath
Three Deep Breathes and watch your center of attention in your body.
Listen your internal voices.Example of a Horse ride without controls:
Internal dialogue is random and listening to self is intentional and deliberate activity. You cannot catch your own shadow the same way when you try to attend your internal dialogue it stops. You need to be mindful of it. Three listening types...
1. Eyes - When you listen through eyes you just observe.
2. Ears – It is empathy
3. Heart – When you learn though heart you actually witness.Some time you have to be judgmental and evaluate but not all the time.
Deep breath - Why Allah created all the worlds. Allah says, I created because I wanted to be seen.
WA MA KHALAQTAL JINNAH Wa Insa .. Submit your will willingly. IKHTIYAR APNAY ALLAH KO WAPIS KAR DIYA INSAN NAY.
Allah is the architect of everything. You have to operate from your heart.
Example of Dish Antenna: And give space to the speaker, give them the respect and value. NAZRAY CHALLI GAI NAZZARAY CHALLAY GAE..
Beethoven Symphony 9 Music Video: JOSHO – Japanese VIOLINIST Example at railway station.
Allama Iqbal once said: “DEED KA JO SHOAQ TU ANKHO KO BAND KAR | HAI DAIKHNA YAHI KEH NA DAIKHA KARRAY KOI...
SIT FACE TO FACE
SHUT DOWN YOUR INTERNAL DIALOGUE
DONT INTERRUPT DONT FIND ANSWERS.
Don’t try to find the answer during the listening activity. ANWERS WILL Automatically and MAGICALLY COME.
DONT wright when you are listening, multitasking may not always be good.
Listening is a moral skill. You tell other person that he or she is more valuable...
I'm actually giving you the value. With love All space is yours with open arms... Don't try to immediately fix –
In fact Listening is a transformative skill